Newbie Sub-Packet...
(Thanks to Dynasty, Cuddles and everyone else who sent me these links!)
The Newbie Submissive Packet is essentially information accessible through your internet connection FREE! This information is to help the person who is interested or intrigued by what they have found in the D/s or BDSM community through their contact with it online. The quality of the information and content varies from site to site and it is my opinion that you should consider what you find here just a portion of what is available. Much of the content is only marginal in quality and accuracy and some things which you will read do not translate well into the real life BDSM community. Remember that opinions vary and the so-called rules, labels, limitations and information can and may be wrong! Take the time to explore further into the local communities and organizations. Read some of the excellent topical BOOKS and proceed into the lifestyle very carefully and with a HEALTHY respect!
Submissives United for Consentual Kink!
The Kink Aware Professionals site is a group of licensed professionals such as doctors who are kink friendly. They are an excellent resource for locating a therapist in your local area!
A MEMO FROM A: submissive TO: Dominants
1~Dont spoil me. I know Quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I `m only testing you.
2~Don`t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.
3~Dont let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in a early stage.
4~Don`t make me feel smaller then I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
5~Don`t correct me in front of people, if you can help it. I`ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6~Don`t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7~Don`t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8~Don`t be too upset when i say "I hate you". Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power thwart to me.
9~Don`t take too much notice of my ailments. Sometimes they get me attention I don't need.
10~Don`t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by being deaf.
11~Don`t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That`s why I am not always accurate.
12~Don`t put me off when I ask questions. If you do you`ll find that I stop asking you and seek my information elsewhere.
13~Don`t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
14~Don`t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
15~Don`t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
16~Don`t ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me surprisingly warm towards you.
17~Don`forget I love experimenting. I couldn`t get along without it, so please put up with it.
18~Don`t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try to.
19~Don`t forget that I don`t thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don`t need to tell you that do I?
20~ Please keep yourself fit and healthy.I need you.
