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ABSOLVE To set free, release from responsibility, obligation or from the consequences of guilt. To be released from such ties as would be guilty to violate. To free from a spiritual penalty. Guilt - failure in respect to ones duty. A believed state of deserved punishment. Just punishment. A breech of conduct or violation of moral and ethical standards. Shameful behavior. It is easy to violate or trespass upon those whose esteem we hold most dear. We formulate grand justifications for our actions within the moment we voluntarily choose to set these actions in motion. We draw many lines of thought together to strengthen our deliberated intent, gifting these thoughts with internal self representations to allow these thoughts to power our actions, pushing back at our underlying moral or ethical code of conduct. In the aftermath of such behavior violations this originated 'false' power dwindles and fades to leave the individual standing within the ruin of their action. This type of self-assault or self-battery is common among individuals with unresolved or unacknowledged self esteem problems. It is a way for the 'unworthy' inner self to destroy the 'worthy' esteem in which they are held by those whose opinion is of the most value to the individual. Many find the experience of being worthy or of personal value intolerable within their concept of how they view themselves. By constructing a destructive or violative action they can remove themselves from this position of fear. Being worthless is a 'known', being worthy is a terrifying unknown. Every moment fraught with the fear of falling. When that fear becomes overwhelming then the individual will cause the fall themselves to remove the stress and anxiety and return themselves to where they believe they belong as unworthy of respect, value or the esteem of others. In considering such violations we are often faced with the position of offering 'absolution' to the violator. This position offers extreme challenges. If we 'release' the individual from their just responsibility for their action then the content of the relationship that they have violated will be reduced or utterly diminished as well. If we do not 'release' the individual then it becomes possible that the individual will remain in a state of spiritual penalty. In addition, we must consider that this action of 'non-release' is a (both release and non-release are actions driven by the actions of the violator) further action of the violator to continued self-assault which may be represented as a morbid self reproach, personal inadequacy, self absorption and a preoccupation with the moral correctness of their behavior often manifesting as excessive expressions of guilt and shame. These expressions can or may be further imposed upon others by the individual as a way to reinforce or sustain the internal belief that the individual is 'unworthy'. Taken further this type of behavior can then become an excuse for additional conduct or destructive actions by which the individual in essence 'punishes' those who they believe are 'foolish' enough to care or hold them in esteem. The only remaining choice is not to offer absolution to others. The concept of release or freedom from responsibility from ones actions is without positive outcome for anyone involved. This choice allows one to refrain from participation in the 'self-assault' actions of others and maintains the 'ownership' of ones actions by the person taking the action. The violator cannot look 'outside' for succor or relief from the weight or damage of the actions they take. The only true action of remorse that can be taken by a violator is to correct their behavior or action from within in all future involvement's. This 'action' will in and of itself demonstrate to others a 'real' decision not 'verbal' decision reflecting the violators acknowledgment of their behaviors, their ownership of these behaviors and their truthful desire to alter these behaviors from within. The source of behavior is within as is the correction of violating behavior against others. We all live with the consequences of the choices we make, some of these consequences are physical and many are mental, emotional and spiritual. In addressing the violations we commit we are exposed to viewing aspects of our self that are selfish, petty, childish, cruel and at times very ugly. We endure these revealment's never quite escaping the sight of them once exposed. Our knowledge of our own weaknesses should humble us in our attempts to sit in judgment upon others, should teach us a deeper level of respect and clear away the rubble of our machinations against ourselves. As someone famous once stated, "fear is the mind killer". Fight what you fear, find the courage to be worthy and of value first in your own eyes. Put aside the self-absorption of guilt and shame. Grasp honor and dignity.
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