Do No Harm! Harm: Disgrace. Injury. Damage. Hurt. Mischief. Disservice. Disrespect. Unkind. The first choice and decision you must make when approaching this lifestyle is the apparently simple choice to Do No Harm! As with most things this is not as simple as it sounds. Harm covers so many different possibilities that the interpretation of what harm is will inevitably vary from person to person. It may be impossible to prevent all injury, hurts or damage but the idea to orient your thinking toward the prevention of injury is what is vitally crucial. Inadvertent or accidental injury to another human being will happen. Problems occur, mistakes are made and often communication fails to identify a potential problem before it happens. This does not relinquish you from maintaining vigilance in every aspect of your relationships with others. By choosing this lifestyle you also choose to live with an enhanced level of risk and a deeper involvement with those you interact with. This involvement will often be in areas that are easily vulnerable to damage or injury. This means that your level of personal responsibility must increase in direct relation to the level of risk involved. Approaching your partner with care and consideration is essential. If your reason for selecting this lifestyle is to use, or treat with indiscretion, care and concern another human being then you are in the wrong place. Submissive/slave/bottoms are not here for you to use as discardable objects or property. If you are here to 'vent' your Dominance upon the body/physical or mental essence of another human being then you are in the wrong place. Expressions of explosive 'venting' energy are in opposition to control. Dominance does not emerge from anger, rage, hurt, pain, guilt or a diminished sense of ego. Anything which negatively affects a Dominants ability to control and manage themselves is a serious issue. This lifestyle has no margin for error or loss of control. If you are here to get 'even' or to 'payback' or 'revenge' past hurts upon others then this demonstrates a mental problem on your part which can make you untrustworthy by those in your care. If you are here to learn how to physically dominate another human being solely for purposes of monetary gain without consideration for the individuals involved then this is the wrong place for you to be. An orientation toward your partner regardless of the level of relationship involvement continues to exist. A failure to understand this will impede your ability to reach into your partner and feel where they are which is often the very best measure of safety that exists between you. If you are here to further your understanding of yourself and others and are willing to take on the full responsibility for another persons life and well being by expressing yourself in the Dominant role, then you are in the right place. Both the Dominant and the submissive orient themselves toward their partner. The welfare, care, well-being and enhanced shared life experiences are a fundamental part of how both people view and relate to their world. Neither partner can be involved solely for their own pleasure, needs or gain. If they are they will cause harm to occur.

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